Mamas, where would we be without them? They carry their babies for 9 months in their body, sharing with them their food, energy, and even the control of their body. Then, they willfully endure the greatest pain in order to meet their greatest gift. Mamas, one powerful force of nature and none of us would be here if it weren't for them.
Our moms are a major influence in our lives. I'm sure many of us heard sayings from our moms, grandmas, aunties growing up that have stuck with us and are joined by laughs, and memories. Here are a few you probably heard as a child:
“If Someone Asked You To Jump Off A Cliff Would You?”
“Money Doesn’t Grow On Trees You Know”
“As Long As You’re Under My Roof, You Live By My Rules”
"I brought you into the world, I can take you out of it"
I know my siblings and I have many of my moms witty and sarcastic phrases that we reminisce and laugh about to this day. Yet, a lot of the woman I am today and aspire to be like, as a wife and mother, is because of my mama and the lessons she gave me within her sayings.
So in light that Mother's Day is around the corner, and we take this time to celebrate moms all over, I wanted to share three sayings that I heard growing up from my mom and have stuck with me now as a woman.
1. "Everything has it's time".
I remember vividly the first time I heard my mom tell me this. I was 14 years old, and I was sitting down at the foot of my bed with my eyes full of tears. I had just broken down to my mom asking her why boys didn't pay attention to me like the other girls in the class, and why I simply couldn't have boyfriend like my cousins had. I remember my mom grabbing my hand and telling "your time will come too, don't rush it or worry about it because everything has it's time in the world." Ever since then, that phrase has stuck with me as a reminder that everything will come at its own time and I don't have to worry nor rush it but let it come when it's meant to.
In Ecclesiastes, the wisdom writer lets us know the same thing in chapter 3:
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens..." - Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV
He goes further and lets us know in verse 11, "Yet, God has made everything beautiful for it's own time." Many of us want to rush things and make them happen in our own time table, yet if we simply allow things to move in the course it needs, God who is in control of it all, will make it beautiful and exactly how it needs to be at the right time. Therefore, don't let life or your perception of "where you need to be", rush you. Enjoy your right now and at it's own time He will bring it forth.
2. "Dime con quien andas y te dire quien eres" / "Tell me who you hang with and I will tell you who you are"
This is a very popular saying throughout Latin America. If you've grown up in a Hispanic home, I am sure you've heard your mom, abuelita, or tia tell you this. I remember I would so often roll my eyes when my mom would say it. In my head, I would say "she doesn't even know them, plus I'm my own person!" HA! How naive I was! It wasn't until my late twenties I have come to realize how true this saying really is.
The people we keep around us truly influence us everyday. They influence our thoughts, habits, perspectives, the way we talk, the way we dress...etc. The 28 years of my life, have been a product of the influences I have kept around. Some led me into amazing things, yet there were some that led me through dark and wrong paths. From doing drugs, to stealing and partying excessively. Not only did some of the people I hung out with led my to do things, but they also influenced my perspective and way of seeing life. I fell into depression, and self centered thinking.
My mom would see me and she would simply remind me of this saying, yet the older I got the less my eyes rolled and the more I would meditate on it.
In Proverbs 13:20, it says:
"Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with the foolish and get into trouble."
Now, I am very mindful of who I am around and how they could be influencing my mind, spirit and life. I decided that I want to constantly be around those that will help me grow in wisdom, rather than in foolishness. Also, I try to be very aware of the influence I can be to those around me, making sure that they feel empowered, loved and influenced into good things.
3. "Who chooses not to listen to advice, won’t grow old"
In other words, my mom was saying the person who is able to listen to the advice of the wise, grows in wisdom. I don't know why, but out of the three, this one was the one that I took and put into practice in my life quick.
Although, at times I may think I know everything, deep down I know that there is so much that I don't know. So I always try to seek wise counsel from those who I admire, or esteem because of who they are, their experiences, and way of thinking. I especially look for those who I know will challenge me, to do what is often difficult in a circumstance.
There are people that seek advice, but they seek it from those who are going to tell them exactly what they want to hear. Yet, many times the advice that comes with wisdom is challenging to listen and accept, as well as to place into practice but its the one that comes with virtue.
"Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others." - Proverbs 12:15
I am curious, what would your mama say? What saying did you hear growing up that have stuck with you now as an adult? Share and let me know!